Fat. Part 2.

A little over a month ago, I posted a blog called "fat". It got a lot of attention, not only from the comments, but from friends who emailed me directly. Few days ago, Julie sent me an article on a 9-year old girl who was battling anorexia. 9. 5th grade with an eating disorder. Then, on the most recent episode of Grey's Anatomy (no spoilers) there was a man who refused to move in with his girlfriend until she was a size 4. This would not have bothered me as bad if I knew it was fiction, but I know a couple, personally, that this was the case. Except she had to be a size 2. I spoke with Corey at length about this. He's one of the few guys who's opinion actually counts with me. He says it's hollywood's influence. I say it is part hollywood. Part men. Men are so visual. It's not really their fault that they are. They want to fuck something by looking at it. Women want to fuck something by talking to it. Just the way we are built. good men are about 2%. Then there are men with low self-esteem that need to have a trophy wife. There are the manwhores, who will fuck anything. There are men who will not take a chance with a bigger girl because of what their friends will think. And then their are the men who have such a low self-image, they will secretly fuck the bigger girls because they can dominate to make themselves feel better. Ya see, those men think that bigger girls have a lower self-esteem and are desperate, easier to manipulate. Hey, I'm all for the man being dominate in bed. But, if you are going to call me at 2am and then act like you don't know me when people are around, I'm gone. That isn't anything but an ego boast by destroying someone else. That is evil. A guy recently emailed me and said "you're hot, big girls need love too!" and I wrote him back and said "...but not from assholes." "Big girls need love too" is probably the worst phrase in the world. To me, it's like saying "black girls need love too." or "smokers need love too." - c'mon people. We are all the same. You have meat on your bones? So? Are you happy? Are you healthy? Do you have some common sense? Do you like pina coladas? Do you like getting caught in the rain? Then that is all that matters. If you aren't happy, do something about it besides eating that cheeseburger or fucking random people to make you feel better. And if you are one of those guys who like your women to look like this: Just...don't...don't..don't even talk to me.